Moms & Tots

encouraging mothers of young children

“ABIDE” April 17, 2011

Filed under: Biblical Womanhood — bbcmomsandtots @ 8:00 am

At the beginning of 2011, I was challenged by a friend to come up with a “Word for the Year”.  The word was to be my personal theme for the year.  The word I came up with was “ABIDE”.  I wanted to be reminded not to just go through the motions of my daily walk with the Lord…but to dig DEEPER and ABIDE IN HIM in 2011.  John 15:4-5 says “Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself, except it abide in the vine; no more can ye, except ye abide in me.  I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing.”;

 Each day this week, we will look at an insight taken from the word “ABIDE”.  Hope you learn much!


Job Available April 15, 2011

Filed under: Motherhood — bbcmomsandtots @ 8:00 am

Job description: energetic young couple needed – unlimited patience, stamina, must be optimistic – must be able to function on 3 hours of sleep, diagnose childhood ailments and read the same book over  and over without being bored, skilled vet, counselor, teacher and taxi-driver, fulltime, no paid vacation, and no salary, but there are great eternal rewards for a job well done

Have you guessed? This job description applies to parents. What greater challenge for a parent than to communicate God’s truths to a young child. God has some words for you. Deuteronomy 6:6-7 is the key to passing on your faith.

“And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And though shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when though walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.

Take advantage of teachable moments daily: meal time, play time, bed time – golden moments when little minds are most impressionable for God. Try it! Look for teachable moments in your child’s life today. Seize them and use them for eternity. You’ll be glad you did. Then expect blessings as your child grows in “favor with God.”

What teachable moments have you had recently with your children?


Giving Your Husband Respect April 14, 2011

Filed under: Marriage — bbcmomsandtots @ 11:38 am

We don’t need instructions on loving our husbands because we are wired to be loving caregivers and loyal wives. Unconditional respect is harder and does not come naturally (Prov. 14:1). If we can get a hold on this concept we will have a great marriage.

It is easier for husbands to respect their wives than to love them and easier for wives to love their husband than to respect them. One thing we need to grasp is men and women think differently! We think pink (emotionally) and they think blue. “Men are from Mars” “Women are from Venus.” Love is our deepest need and respect is his deepest need.

How we say something may be computed totally different to him than how we meant it. We are wired differently! God made us that way. The real purpose behind showing love and respect to one another is to glorify God and obey what He teaches in His word.

A book I would like to recommend is Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. I gleaned much information from this excellent book.

Here are some ideas of how to show your husband respect.

♥    Respect his work – He identifies very strongly with his work.

♥    Don’t criticize him – A man wants a woman who believes in him.

♥     Appreciate his desire to protect and provide – put yourself under him and allow him to protect you. Our Husbands will answer to the Lord for how they lead our homes and the decisions they make. Men are wired to die for wife and family.

♥    Send him a respect letter signed all my respect.

♥    Appreciate his desire to serve and lead.

♥    Appreciate his desire to analyze and counsel. – recognize his insight, our decisions are sometimes based on emotions.

♥    Don’t criticize or nag.

♥    Be your husband’s best friend.

When we respect our husbands, it will cause him to want to love and serve us.

How do you show your husband respect?


I Am Truly Blessed with a Strong Willed Child April 11, 2011

Filed under: Motherhood — bbcmomsandtots @ 8:00 am

My Son is 47, he is married and the Father of three. He has always been an over-achiever – which has rewarded him with many accomplishments and great job positions. His co-workers love him and do all they can to assist him in his job endeavors. His attitude in life is always positive and he loves to help and encourage others.

So, why would I label him “strong willed” and how did he arrive where he is today? I’ll take you back to when he was a very young child. I knew I was in trouble when he had his first “temper tantrum” at 3 months. He held his breath so long that his face was turning blue. He wanted to be fed in 2 ½ hours – and I wanted him to wait another hour. He won that battle.

The Bible says in Jer. 17:9 – “the heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked”. Our basic nature is to be “self-centered” to the point of being deceitful. My child was desperate to get fed when he wanted. This nature dominates a “strong willed child”. When things were going well for him, he was a happy and loving child. I knew he loved life at its fullest, yet I couldn’t trust him out of my sight. Once I was getting dressed and after a few minutes, I went to check on him, only to find that he had climbed onto the dining room table and was swinging on the hanging light fixture. When he was older, he was cursed with the world’s largest sweet tooth. I had to hide every sweet snack in the house. He’d find my hidden snacks and help himself – knowing there would be a punishment – but it was worth it to him because he got what he wanted.

Discipline was constant – I became the genius at new ways to get ahead of him. I think he looked forward to the challenge. I, on the other hand, quoted in my head over and over, “this too shall pass” – and it did. When he was around 10, he asked Jesus into his heart – to take away his sins. Slowly we saw him try harder to be obedient. Today he is a polished gem – full of intense love for the Lord and living a life full of love and happiness. What a blessing that is.

There are many blessings raising a child like him. The one most important to me was to see how God could use his young life and channel his antics into good behavior. It surly didn’t happen overnight, but God used his loving personality in many ways and today he loves to reach out to others. The next important blessing is that I became very close to him. I knew his every thought. I could read his mind. We were so connected to each other – he watched me to see what he could sneak by me and I was always watching him, trying to stay ahead of him. We were a team, but we were on opposite teams.

Many times I forgot that God chose me to be his Mother. God trusted me to raise him to be a servant to be used by God – and he is. He is a “Beacon for God” – and that was only made possible because both of us responded to God’s leading through the Holy Spirit. It was a constant battle, yet the battle was actually won by both of us.

I, over the years have been surprised with all the “strong willed” children I’ve seen. I do notice that God usually only gives one strong willed child in a household. We can be thankful for that. I love giving advice and I have given so many tips to parents – like “change your routines”. They read us and they expect certain behaviors from us. When you mess up their plans it makes them mad and it proves to them that they are not the boss and they are not in control after all. I have been so blessed with those that I’ve helped. I love to see the changes happen. Whenever I can, I remind them that it is only for a season – and “this too shall pass”. God makes no mistakes and God is always good.

What creative ways have you found that work with developing your strong willed child for Christ?


Growing Love April 8, 2011

Filed under: Biblical Womanhood — bbcmomsandtots @ 8:00 am

What fruit should you be growing on the tree of your spiritual life? The first that we find in Galatians 5:22 is love.  This important fruit is commanded of us throughout scripture. John 13:35 says, “By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.”

Love is one of the attributes of God, and therefore is important for us to mirror in our lives (1 John 4:8). God also loved us so much that He sent His son to die for our sins (John 3:16). And we are commanded to love others as God loved us. (John 15:12)

A clear picture is given for us in 1 Corinthians 13. It shows us exactly what love looks like. Each attribute we find in this passage is an action and not an emotion. We need to choose to love, not feel like it. Use the following reminders to help you evaluate how you love each of the people God commands us to love (one another – John 15:12, husband and children – Titus 2:4, neighbors – Matt 22:39, enemies – Luke 6:27).

♥    Patiently bears the offenses of others (v. 4)

♥    Kind (v.4)

♥    Not jealous (v. 4)

♥    Doesn’t brag and is not arrogant (v. 4)

♥    Doesn’t act unbecomingly (v.5)

♥    Doesn’t  demand for self (v. 5)

♥    Not easily angered(v. 5)

♥    Doesn’t assume wrong of others (v. 5)

♥    Not joyful about sin (v. 6)

♥    Joyful over truth (v. 6)

♥    Bears all things (v.7)

♥    Believes all things (v. 7)

♥    Hopes all things (v. 7)

♥    Endures all things (v. 7)

♥    Never fails (v. 8 )

How has God helped you overcome the flesh and love the “others” He has commanded you to, even when it is difficult?


New 2 You

Filed under: Up Coming Events — bbcmomsandtots @ 6:40 am

New 2 You

Baby, Children, and Women’s

Consignment Sale and Bake Sale

Saturday May 7

8 am – 12 pm

Bethel Baptist Church Gymnasium

754 E. Rockhill Rd.

Sellersville, PA

Bake Sale proceeds to benefit Max Popish and his fight against cancer.


A Godly Wife April 6, 2011

Filed under: Marriage — bbcmomsandtots @ 8:00 am

If we are living fruitful lives before God, it is most likely we will be criticized and condemned by the ungodly world. How do we as Godly wives bear up under this criticism and continue to be a help to our husbands and an example to our children?

We need to awaken to the need for personal holiness and obedience. We receive criticism for our faithfulness and fruitfulness, but count it all joy! People need our compassion and prayers. Scripture tells us to bless those who persecute us. (Lam. 12:14) When you pray for these people it is a protection from bitterness. If we react with this attitude, God will work it out for good and His glory. If we complain, we will not see God’s blessing.

The whole family is affected by Mom and Dad’s surrender to God. First submit to one another’s needs (Eph 5:21).  Also as Godly wives know that we were created for our husbands (1 Cor. 11:9). We are completers and supporters and set the mood in our homes. We must have a loving attitude and let our husbands know we love and respect them (Prov 31:23). We are the keeper of his children (Titus 2:4-5). And be sure to remember how important the first 7 years of their lives are. That is when they form all of their habits. We are keepers of his home and keepers of his heart. We must be humble and have a sweet attitude with dignity and respect in the home. Love the Lord and make your home like heaven (Prov. 31:11).